This morning was tough. As a caregiver to my mom, who is battling dementia, I often find myself juggling the emotional weight of her condition alongside the practical challenges of daily life. Today was no exception. My mom Karen was particularly fussy, and to add to the stress, I received a home repair estimate that was way beyond what I had anticipated. Being a strong, independent woman—something my mom always raised me to be—can feel exhausting at times. There are moments when I wish I could lean on someone else, just for a little while, to share the burden.
When Mom noticed my frustration, she tried to help, but her repetitive questions only added to my stress. I could feel my patience wearing thin, so I quickly distracted her with her laundry. As I stepped away to gather myself, something beautiful happened. Over the noise of the TV, I heard my mom praying. She was praising God for what He was going to do, praying over me and the situation. At that moment, it wasn’t dementia speaking—it was “my mom”. She was doing what she’s always done best: being my rock, my prayer warrior. I grabbed my phone and captured the moment on video because it was pure, unfiltered love.
Watching a loved one fade due to dementia is a unique kind of grief. It’s painful, and there’s no way to stop it. But in moments like these, I’m reminded that my mom is still here, still fighting, and still showing up for me in the ways she can.
One of the ways I’ve been able to support her is by introducing tools that make her life easier. Recently, we received the “VOCIC Z55 Rollator Walker”, and mom loves it! She’s been in a lot of pain this week, so she hasn’t been walking as much, but I was able to capture some videos of me unpacking, assembling it, and Mom trying it out indoors. She has a doctor’s appointment tomorrow, and I plan to get footage of her using it outdoors. The rollator has been a game-changer, providing her with stability and independence, which is so important for her dignity and quality of life.
Laughter has also been a saving grace on this journey. My mom has always been a teaser, and while it used to annoy me as a teenager, I now see how God uses her humor to lighten the heaviness of our situation. Not every caregiver has a positive foundation with their loved one, and I know this journey can be messy and emotional. But if you can, laugh through it. Let compassion and love lead you. And remember, however you’re able to show up, it’s enough. Your best is enough.
To my caregiver tribe, I see you. This journey isn’t easy, but moments of grace, love, and even laughter make it bearable. With tools like the VOCIC Z55 Rollator Walker, we can give our loved ones the support they need to keep fighting, one step at a time.
